04/27/2017

How to Cope with Rejection in Recovery

Imagine you’re at a party and you see a girl. You feel an attraction to her so you introduce yourself. A few minutes later you ask her out and she says no. Your ego took a shot, you start to feel angry and confused, and you’re not sure how to react. As a recovering addict, the rejection stings even more. Addicts are used to doing anything to get their fix, whether that means lying, manipulating, or coercing their way to their drug of choice. In recovery, those habits might not be completely healed. So the rejection hits harder, causing the recovering…
 
04/26/2017

Nobody’s Perfect: The Link Between Body Image and Substance Abuse

We’re surrounded by body image propaganda everywhere we turn, from billboards and commercials to book covers and school posters. It appears so often that we think we don’t even notice it anymore. But we do. And it forces us to look back at ourselves. How much time do we spend looking in a mirror each day? Even recovery supports the idea of holding a "mirror" up to ourselves. However, while recovery forces a more internal self-assessment, there’s no doubt that self image is a big part of our daily life. Body image issues are actually more common than one might think…
 
04/26/2017

Damage Control: Mending Your Lies in Recovery

It’s a hard truth to swallow but, as an addict, you’ve probably hurt someone in your past because of your addiction. Addicts put their addiction first and manipulate and lie to the people around them in the process. Making amends for your lies is one of the most important things you can do to help the people in your life accept your recovery and forgive you for the hurt they’ve experienced. Why do addicts lie? Drugs and alcohol affect the brain’s ability to function properly. More specifically, they inhibit the brain’s ability to think objectively and respond analytically. So, while under the…
 
04/25/2017

Testosterone Overload: How to Deal with Other Men in Recovery

When we think of men we think strong, muscular, and tough, among other “masculine” adjectives that the patriarchy has crafted. This idea of a man isn’t any different for men in recovery. However, trying to treat an addiction problem is problematic with this preconceived notion of what a man should be. And, to be honest, it’s not just a notion. We actually live these beliefs. It’s a cultural script that men aren’t even aware they’re participating in because we’re taught that this is what a man is. Because of this cultural script of masculinity, men sometimes find it difficult to…
 
04/25/2017

Joys and Struggles of Long-Term Recovery

Addicts have generally spent an extended amount of time participating in activities that make the words “long-term recovery” sound intimidating and discouraging. It stirs ideas of commitment and effort – both of which have likely fallen out of favor in an addict’s mind. However, long-term recovery might be exactly what someone seeking treatment is looking for. Long-term treatment is an inpatient treatment program that lasts at least 90 days. It is especially beneficial for those who have unsuccessfully tried shorter treatment programs, are having a harder time adjusting, or have an extensive amount of triggers. Joys of Long-Term Recovery Awareness and Acceptance As…
 
04/24/2017

How to Manage Expectations in Recovery

It’s natural when making any sort of life change to adopt certain expectations about the effects of that change. In recovery specifically, these expectations can be quite high. You’re creating a new start for yourself, after all. The thing with expectations is that they stem from inexperience. You haven’t experienced something before, so you foster expectations as to how it will be and what will come out of it. While this isn’t necessarily important when expecting a horror movie to be scary or a pair of jeans to fit just right, it’s a crucial thing to remember when going through…